Clothing and Sex

To all my readers welcome to 2010, this year is going to be a great new year; I feel it in my bones, so put away all your fears of the last year and really make this one work for you.
So to start off the New Year I thought I would chat to some of my friends about sex and clothing and put forward some of there answers.
Think the only purpose clothes serve in a sack session is as an obstacle? Don't be too quick to strip — there are naughty things you can do with your threads that'll heat up a hookup.

Staying partially clothed builds anticipation and makes sex feel spontaneous, plus you can use clothing and accessories as props to enhance tactile sensations.
Try these inventive and tantalizing tips.
• Stand behind him, wrap your arms around his torso, and press against him. Then slide your hands into his boxers while kissing the back of his neck.
• Give him a long look at you in a bra, panties, and tall heeled boots. The vixenish-sweet combo majorly turns men on.
• Blindfold him with his tie. Blocking his sight heightens his other senses, and not knowing your next move will drive him insane (in a good way).
• While wearing a silky camisole, climb on top of him and slide your body all over his naked skin.
• Let him lick your breasts through a sheer bra, then pull down the straps one at a time to grant him full access.
• Whip off his belt, fold it in half, and playfully smack his butt.
• Gently bind his ankles together using your bra. When you restrict his movement, you get to be in control and he feels the thrill of being dominated.
• Unzip his pants, but don't pull them off. Instead, take his member out of the opening in his boxers and treat him to oral action. It'll give him a rush to have only this one sexy body part exposed.
• Have him place his hands or mouth down south while you're in undies. The fabric is a barrier (amping excitement), and his warm breath will feel amazing.
• Roll a smooth beaded necklace over his stomach or up and down his thighs and along his member to give him a soft, skin-tingling massage.
• Slip off your panties but keep your skirt on for girl-on-top sex.
• Fling open a front-closure bra right before climax. Setting your breasts free will send him tumbling over the edge.
• Sit on top of him while he's in his boxers or pants and you have on underwear or thin shorts. Grind back and forth against him for as long as you can, then ditch your undies and have sex.
• Don't let him remove his T-shirt during sex. Mid-orgasm, grab the fabric in the middle of his chest, twist it so it tightens around his torso and pull him close.
• Just push your underwear aside to have sex. The immediacy of it is hot — like you can't wait to have each other.

Trying different things in the bedroom keeps your sex life hot and spontaneous, the last thing you want is dull and boring sexual interactions as this will lead to less sex and more fighting.

Your Sexual Holiday

Well it’s that time of year when things start to slow down and the uncomfortable reality of unwanted time spent with family comes knocking.
But if you have decided to go away for the festive holidays, here’s something to think about, weather you are going with friends, partners or by yourself you can spice up you holiday and really make it something to remember.

They have many names: adult, sex or singles' holidays. Unlike what we believe, the excitement doesn't come because of sex per se, but because of the sense of adventure and moral taboo that comes tagged with it.

A sex holiday is not just about hooking up with local girls, and is definitely not about paying to do 'it'. In fact, prostitution is a waste of a holiday as it can often be indulged in at home and may be even more unsafe in unknown parts of the world. A singles' vacation, instead, is about meeting interesting women or generally having fun with singles. (Of course, if it does come with a couple of one-night-stands, who's complaining, right?)

What to expect.

Everyone who sets out on a holiday of this kind has his reasons-an ex-girlfriend, a divorce or simply the want of a kinky adventure. Whatever your case, list down what it is you are looking for. Then tear off that list, and wipe all expectations off your mind. It helps to not covet anything, as a sex holiday is not a defined idea. "Adult tourism is a subtle part of the travel industry that is quite popular," says Jehan Driver, a young travel enthusiast and consultant who has a decade of experience in travelling and now organizes his own adventure trips.

"During my two-year adventure study in New Zealand, we conducted a group study which showed that nearly 60 per cent of backpackers have some kinky expectations out of their holidays," he says. "In New Zealand, there are tourism operators who offer bus tours around the country, which, even though not advertised as hedonistic, are seen to be so by the travelers on these tours," he adds.

Though some online tour operators do sell packages labeled 'Sex Holiday' in huge, bright, glittering fonts, the definition varies from nude beaches to 'escorts'. As a rule, be wary of tour companies who officially advertise the 'sex' factor on such tours. The best sex holidays are singles' vacations that give like-minded groups of men and women a common platform to mingle and have fun.

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A holiday like this is generally not sold off the shelf (at least, not openly!) as it touches the forbidden land of promoting 'prostitution'- which is legal in some countries and illegal in others. If you're the kind who doesn't have any qualms about prostitution, you may choose to go to countries where it's legal and safe, but do so at your own risk.

If you would rather avoid paying for sex (highly recommended), join a group where you are likely to find similar-minded women (or men, we are not judging!) to travel with. And there are plenty of such tours available. Google key words like 'adult holidays' and 'travel companion', to get to such websites.



Many tour companies design their itineraries for young, adventurous travelers looking to party together. There are no strict age groups, just a minimum age of 18 and no real male/female ratio. So you could end up with 60 per cent men on your tour group or 90 per cent women, depending on your luck.

Another interesting option to try out is a festival. Music festivals such as Glastonbury in the UK, Fuji Rock in Japan, Mardi Gras in New Orleans are score sports. An 'intellectual' approach works in cultural fests.

Whatever might be your way, go with an open mind and you might find more than what you are counting on!

World's top sex holiday destinations.

Like it kinky or plain fun? Here's where to head for any kind of adventure

Thailand Sun, sea, sand and sex.

There's plenty on offer from island hopping and beaches to lively nightlife and parties. One top destination for a sex-minded holiday is the Full Moon partying at Ko Pha Ngan, an alternative to the year round rowdiness of Koh Samui, just down south, mostly disguised under the label of 'spa' holidays.

Europe Continent of opportunities.

Cities like London, Paris, Amsterdam and Barcelona feature at the top of the list for holidays where one can grab enough opportunities. The Pigalle district on the north side of Paris, despite its sleazy reputation, has a vibrant nightlife and great food, other than the obvious of course! De Wallen, or the area also known as Rossebuurt in the heart of the oldest part of Amsterdam, is apparently the most visited Red Light district of the world. Barcelona has a good mix of it all-sun, sea, sand as well as culture and nightlife. In fact, Ibiza is the long-standing traditional sun-sea destination for all-night dance parties.

New Zealand Bungee jumping and lots of humping.

Queenstown is the hub of international travelers with its spectacular mountain scenery. It's also a great party town and with a backdrop of sun or snow, depending on the season. But if you want somewhere a bit more serene with sun and sea, head for the North Island and Auckland for great vibrant nightlife and a bit farther north to the Bay of Plenty for sea and water sports. Another place off the beaten track around this area is Hokianga, which boasts of the highest sand dune in the world for sand sledging. (And the ideal place for a quickie or a whole-day repeat show by the sea.)

South Africa hot and sexy in the sun.

Capetown is a great place to meet hot young guys and girls baking in the sun all year round, you can bake in the sun all day long and party in the many nightclubs scattered all up the beach.
The best part about South Africa is their prices, for the same price as a holiday in London, you can live like a King is S.A, some of the best wine routes and sea food can be yours for next to nothing.



Japan Offbeat and unusual.

If you're after more of an offbeat destination then try Tokyo and Kyoto in Japan with the 'geisha tours'-the discreet way of hooking up with a girl. Or head down to Okinawa for remote island hopping on un-spoilt beaches.

North America Retro fun in the sun.

Head down Route 1 from San Francisco, along the Big Sur Coast in California for a traditionally hippy destination with sun and sea. An added bonus is that you can surf to your heart's content. Make a final stop in Los Angeles.

PS: Don’t forget the camera and Cam recorder and if you would like to share your holiday adventurers with us and our readers please E-mail or attach a link to your photos and video and send them to attachedanddating@gmail.com
Happy Holidays.